Parenting our Children – the TESSA way

Parenting therapeutically is the single most important thing we can do for our children. 
Other support services can be helpful at critical times and with specific aspects of adoption, but the everyday interventions of parents have the most power to transform a child’s life.

Day 1:     Friday 13th April 2018
Day 2:     Saturday 14th April 2018
Day 3:     Friday 20th April 2018
Day 4:     Saturday 21st April 2018

Day 1:     Friday 27th April 2018
Day 2:     Saturday 28th April 2018
Day 3:     Friday 11th May 2018
Day 4:     Saturday 12th May 2018

Time: 9.30am – 4.00pm

Tea, coffee and a light lunch will be provided.

For more information or to reserve a place, contact TESSA at 028 9046 9211

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Much of traditional parenting assumes that children trust their parents and their motives to care for them, that they learn from consequences, develop appropriate independence and accept their parents’ values, ideals and goals. We cannot make these assumptions in adoption. Our children have had experiences that no child should have to endure and they’ve had to adapt to survive. These adaptations show up as difficult behaviours that can make it hard for us to parent our children. They also impact on school, friendships, and other aspects of everyday life.

The aim of therapeutic parenting is to help a child feel safe enough to begin to heal. Our four-day programme of support is research-based. It enables parents to gain an understanding of their adopted children’s needs and to receive valuable peer support. Parenting our Children has developed out of Adoption UK’s ground-breaking It’s a Piece of Cake. It has been reviewed and updated by Family Futures and draws on research from many sources, principally Dan Hughes, Dan Siegel and Bruce Perry, as well as experienced therapeutic parents such as Caroline Archer and Christine Gordon.
This four-day Parenting our Children programme has been developed and is delivered by adoptive parents. The programme can take up to 16 parents. It is participative and interactive, balancing theory with practical exercises.

Here’s what some of our parents had to say . . .



“A brilliant course delivering up-to-date knowledge and strategies to help us parent our children… also gives us the opportunity to meet with other adopters, share experiences and gain support. Well worth investing the time regardless of how long your child(ren) have been home.” Adoptive parent

“Best training I have ever been on – focuses on emotion at a deep level. I’ve done lots of training. This was exceptional. Thank you.”

“Fantastic course. I have taken away something from every session.”

“Great that trainers were adoptive parents. A follow-up would be great.”

“The training was excellent. I wish I had done it years ago.”

“This training couldn’t have come at a better time. I am 100 times better equipped to deal with our family’s challenges now that I’ve done it”